I was so excited Rhett had kissed me. A part of me really wanted to date him and a part of me was really intimidated by him and was afraid he thought I was dumb. He had multiple personalities. Sometimes he seemed really impressed by me and he liked me a lot. Other times he seemed frustrated by me and how little I knew about random facts.
The next time, post kiss, that I saw Rhett, we were in our usual coffee place. I was excited to see him to see how everything was going to play out. He seemed a little giddy as well. We start talking, and then he announces he is bisexual.
Whatever amount of turned on I was suddenly dropped into the negative numbers. For anyone who knows me, you know I have very little filter from what I say in my head to what comes out of my mouth. So, naturally I said "eww, gross". Both he and I were shocked my response.
He then goes on to tell me how he came to explore bi-sexuality. I am fully looking around and planning a quick exit strategy. Unfortunately for Rhett, and all the other bisexuals I encounter, I don't believe in bi-sexuality. I don't believe in the gray area as a state of permanent existence. Here are my reasons (I also explained this to Rhett, and as you might imagine they were not well received):
-I have never met an adult bi-sexual who was with someone and still identified themselves as bi-sexual. They claimed to be bi in their youth, but was either gay or straight later on in life.
-I don't think experimenting with the same sex in your youth makes you bi-sexual.
-I think that its entirely possible to be straight and fall in love with someone of the same sex at one point in your life without meaning that you were always bisexual.
-Pretty much nobody from the gay or straight community wants to date a self-proclaimed bisexual.
-I think when one walks into a room and is single and looking around, you know inherently what you are looking for.
-I can understand bi-sexuality when it refers to just sex, in which case, the person probably just really wants to/needs to get laid. Maybe a self-confidence issue? Just not when it refers to dating or love.
-Finally, I think bi-sexual males are gay.
Sorry if this offends anyone, it is my blog, and it is a reflection of what my opinion is.
When I left Rhett that night (no kiss), I had to think about whether I could handle dating someone who was bi-sexual. To me, that was worse that all the other red flags combined. He texted me a few times after that, I saw him once or twice, but I had moved on. He had too...probably to date some really fascinating intellectual boy whose resume in Rhett's connections journal took up a full page. I wonder if Rhett put hearts around the guy's information.
In case you are wondering, yes, I have tried to look up Rhett on Facebook to see where he is in the world today (and whether or not he is gay) and he is not on Facebook. Shocker! Probably too low-brow for him. I'll let you know if I find him on linked-in.
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